Category: Dating and Relationships
i have messed up abit in the title. to all the men, if you had a child, wood you after walking out on the said child, then take up with another woman who has a child, then look after that child and take it to school and things, knowing that you should be doing that with your own child.
i am trying to find out if all men are wankers, or if hay it was just my bad luck.
firstly I don't think all men fall into the same category.
However, it's true that over 50% of fathers lose touch with their children within the first year of a seperation.
Chances are that your ex is playing happy families with this girl because he knows it'll impress her if he plays the dutiful stepdad and tries to get her kids on side. Give it six months, and he'll probably stop being nice to the kids because he'll have his feet firmly under the table by then.
hugs Linds, and agree on what Claire had said. not every man like that but however, it is their first motives to keep the new girl a good impression that he is a good father etc. i guess, this not only apply for man it apply for some woman who's wants to be the step parent as well.
Certainly not guys who do are the lowest forms of life.
As a man I'd never walk out on a child if I were married to a woman and had one. I think those type of men who do shit like that are just scared to be emotionally involved with the child's life and helping to raise that child. I think all they wanted was a good fuck then to take off leaving the woman in charge of the child.
However you did say he ran to another woman with a child right? Well I'm not quite sure what to say on that matter, but that's fucked up to considering he already had a child to take care of to begin with. What in the fuck is the woeld coming to these days? Honestly I don't get it anymore.
I think they are more interested in producing children to brag about, its all to do with proving their sexual superiority to other guys,with more integrity.
Yeah that's true
Naah, the world isn't so black and white. There could be cases where there is violence or abuse or cheating involved, the man could feel forced to move out because he was being cheated on or that the situation between him and his wife/lover/long term partner had become so bad they both realize the children would be better of if they separated.
That being said, if he doesnot at least pay as much attention to his kids from previous marriage/relationship than his new woman's kids he's got some pretty big issues, to say the least and, yes, sadly there are the occasional guys who are just pathetic like that. I don't know your man but it sounds like you sadly found one of them.
Better luck next time, some of us are really not that bad, we're not perfect, not by a long shot, and we have our faults, but I think we honestly try our best and, to all guys that I know, having a kid is a huge deal that they both want and feel very responsible about.
Some, not all.
My mother filed for a divorce from my father when I was 5. He wanted to make the marage work, but he wanted to have his women on the side as well, and Mom didn't want that. After he left, he would put in an appearance once in a while and give us kids a few moments of his time. This might happen once every 2 or 3 years. Then he married this woman who decided to trap him by getting pregnant, even after he told her he didn't want any more kids. This time though, I think he felt that he was too old to be in the single market again, so he stayed put.
When I was little, my dad and I did lots of activities and such but as I grew up, he was little more than a pay check. That's the way it goes sometimes.
Nothing wrong with a man leaving the woman. These are adult issues, and like has been posted their are 2 sides. Sadly most men attach the child with the woman, so if they don't have the woman then the child is gone as well. I agree that this won't last. If the new women gets undesirable so will her cild. Not a man in my humble opinion, because a man takes care of his own, but...
"Anything with a dick can help make a baby, but it takes a real man to help raise one," - The movie 'Colors'
Interesting.
I am a single mother of a baby girl who is almost two years old. Her father and I broke up when she was a week old, because he treated me bad and fought with me in front of our child. He goes around telling people his sob story as if I'm the bad guy. He doesn't pay child support, but still wants his visits. It's like pulling teeth to get anything for Chloe from him. He's married to a whore and has another kid on the way and is talking about how close he wants Chloe to be to this other kid. He practically wants to shove this other kid down Chloe's throat. It's wrong and it makes me sick.
My whole opinion on this matter as a female: many of modern 'parenting' is actually breeding. The Conservative movement...as a political conservative myself, this infuriates me to no end...instills fear in this area, citing statistics like "Immigrants are having more children...Muslims in western Europe are having more children than Christians and Jews..." YIPPEE!!!I have noticed a lot of these folks being cited as having more children do not actually believe in hands on parenting. When some of these duds not dads divorce, I see no evidence of ANY involvement in their childrens' lives, where some very nice Jewish folks I have known to be divorced parents of one or more children have stood by their children no matter what.
People are being, IMNSHO, taught of children as something to have, something you MUST have to reproduce a race or religion or keep a family name or whatever, something to have no matter how inappropriate your circumstances, NOT as people with legitimate needs of their own.
As to the following situation, a one time friend of mine was divorced by a *&^^(^ who abandonned their 2 daughters and moved in with his girlfriend and her pre-teen son. (&^%*_&^% was ticked off when his 2nd child was a girl and not a boy. Also said *^^(^ didn't think being a dad was too cool when he found out it would involve...OMG...sacrifice. Too many people want the ego of saying they have more than one child...can't count how many times I've been given a hard time about my one child family...but resent having to sacrifice their single lifestyles or childless lifestyles to care for 'em. Personally I think if someone can't accept whatever they get...boy,girl, healthy, handicapped, any # of states in between...they should stay on birth control. And no I agree not all men are like the original examples. I have guy platonic friends who got night jobs to be more available for their children, and one guy, my lunch friend, stuck with it even though his kids are college age.